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Mentor Workshop / Draft Day – Reflection

According to Merriam-Webster Dictionary.com

Mentor: Someone who teaches or gives help and advice to a less experienced and often younger person, acts as a trusted guide, and is an influential supporter.

Mentor Reflection / Mentor Workshop:

Brace yourself, because this blog post is about to be very jumbled around, with a lot of random thoughts! I haven’t posted in awhile, and I am very happy to start writing again. But I would like to start with, HOLY CRAP! I cannot believe how fast this year has gone by, it’s absolutely crazy. Last year at this time, I was just told who would be my mentor in the Leader Advancement Scholar program, and was introduced to my “family tree”. I received a big box in the mail, with a long hand written letter (that was super super sweet! by the way), some CMU spirit wear, some dorm decorations, treats and other miscellaneous things from my mentor. I had just finalized my rooming situation and picked my classes for my freshman year. Now, it’s a year later! WOW. It’s really weird to think about how crazy fast life has gone by lately. I just went through “mentee draft” and picked someone that I will be able to mentor next year. The word mentee is a little strange, I will admit, but it is something that is among my favorite things that the LAS program offers. I really don’t know if I would have survived this school year if it weren’t for my mentor, Megan Mcgillis, and I am really thankful LAS brought us together. It freaks me out sometimes, but I think we are the same person. Megan is always there for me, even on my worst days, to take me to dinner in the dining hall and cheer me up with her encouraging words, or give me good advise about scheduling classes and choosing majors, when I am having a freak out. She spoils me and takes me out to eat off campus,  and pays for my meal every time, refusing to let me pay because “you are my mentee and you are meant to be spoiled okay!?”. She is constantly inspires me, I really look up to her. Like what college sophomore could say they’ve gone to Africa two summers in a row, to help malnourished children and mothers affected by HIV? Not many, thats for sure! She works two jobs, still manages to get good grades, and is involved on campus. She encouraged me to go greek, and I am very thankful for her pushing me to join. She is not only my mentor, but my good friend. I look up to her, and respect her. We always have such a great time together, and I just love her so much! As talk about the mentee draft started to be brought up through our LAS cohort, I could not help but hope I would get a mentee that was similar to Megan. Someone that I could spoil, give advice to, cheer them up on their bad days, make them presents, and love unconditionally. Someone that shared similar values to me, and someone that wanted to be good friends, not only mentor/menthes. In my LDR200 Class, we did a mentor workshop one day. We talked about all the things we were looking for in a mentee, all the things we would commit to do as a mentor, and important things to remember as we went into the competitive mentee draft day. My views did not change during this workshop, but it was just reaffirmed that no matter what student I received as a mentee, I would love them all the same. I would try my very hardest to give them the best resources and advice. We received a booklet of 45+ possible mentees, with their social media information (to stalk them and talk to them of course), random facts about them (favorite color, favorite quote, etc.), where they were from, their desired majors, and few more things. I went home from that class and looked at all the potential mentees. I found a few that looked like they shared similarities with me, and started talking to them through twitter. One of the girls really stood out to me, and I just knew I really wanted her as a mentee. So, on to the dreaded draft day…

Draft Day…

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No, it was not NFL draft day, but it was something more important, Mentee Draft day, Duh! This must sound like the absolute strangest thing, to someone who isn’t in the LAS program. But for short, basically you go into class that day with an idea of the students you want as a mentee, and write down your first pick on a piece of paper. After that, we go in a circle around the room, and people read off their first choice. If someone has the same first pick as you, they “object” when you read it off. That potential mentee is put on “hold” and the circle keeps going. If no one objects, you receive your first choice! The second round is for the people with objections, and you play a card game to see who wins that first choice. Whoever has the higher card, gets to choose first. The third round of the draft is for people who want two mentees, and they get to pick their second one. This might sound confusing, but what I can tell you is that people are extremely competitive on this day. Picture war paint on the face and game time attitudes. LASers don’t mess around! haha. I came in knowing I wanted on specific girl. I was going to fight for her! But like I said before, if I did end up with someone else, I would love them all the same. I was very nervous, because I didn’t know if someone else in my class wanted the same person as me or not. My mentor told me, don’t worry, because obviously if something is meant to be, it will happen. It all works out in the end, so don’t worry about something you can’t control. That was really good advice I thought, because God would put me with whoever I could help the most, and the good man upstairs knows what he’s doing!

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Continued Draft Day…

SO, guess what?!?! No one wanted the person I wanted, and I received the perfect little mentee Allegra Berry! Ah I am so excited and happy! I have yet to meet her, but I can just tell that we are going to be great friends, like Megan and I are. I can’t wait to help her next year, and spoil her rotten! We both love the color teal, got cornrows on our senior spring breaks in Mexico, like to play sports, love to volunteer, like sarcastic humor, color coordinated our dorm rooms with our roommates, and were on student council in high school. I say it was meant to be! She is the perfect fit to my LAS family tree and I love love love her! I am finally a mentor! Whoooo

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Almost forgot, oops!

#LEADCHAT #LEADCHAT #LEADCHAT

During the 200LDR class we did our mentor workshop in, we also participated in a 
#Leadchat. For those unfamiliar with twitter, it is a way to use social media
to get the advertise something. People typically take a topic, and hashtag it (#) and let others respond to their question, response, or opinion about the topic.
Whatever is hash tagged shows up on people's twitter timeline. For our LDR200 
class, we did it through the leadership institute's twitter. That twitter page
asked a series of questions, and we were asked to respond to them. Most of the 
questions were already answered above about mentors and mentees, but here is my 
quick responses to each question:

Q1: What qualities do you look for in a mentor? #LeadChat
I want a mentor that genuinely cares about me, someone who has similar values and 
beliefs as me. This doesn't mean we have to be the same with everything we do in
life, but I want someone who understands or at least respects my beliefs. My 
mentor in LAS now, has very similar values to me, and even though we have different hobbies and do different kinds of things sometimes, we both are very similar 
because our foundations are similar. She understands me. I also want a mentor 
that wants to help me grow as a person. A mentor that can help me 
through tough times and give me advice about things socially, academically, and
really about anything is very desired. I want a mentor that I can really look up
to/

Q2: What are your expectations of your mentee? #LeadChat
I want a mentee that is excited about coming to CMU, excited to meet new people 
and make new friends, and excited to try new things. I want a mentee that is 
openminded and won't judge me. I want a mentee that loves me just as much as 
I love them, and someone who wants to be my friend. I want to help grow my mentee,
but I also want a mentee that challenges me. Someone who knows that I would do
anything for them, and aren't afraid to ask for help from me.

Q3: What is the difference between a mentor and a role model? #LeadChat
I think that Angie, (in my LAS cohort), said it best, as she tweeted "Role model= "Just do what I do." Mentor= "Bad day? I've been there too, don't worry, I've got
you." (I most definitely retweeted this, haha). But anyways, I think that a mentor is someone who wants to walk along side you, help you, grow you, and genuinely 
loves and cares about you.

Q4: What communication tools work best with a mentor/mentee relationship? 
#LeadChat
I think that it's very important to form a bond and spend face to face time with
your mentee. Life gets busy, especially for LAS scholars, but hanging out in 
person is key. Studying together at the library, going to eat in the dinning 
halls, or just hanging out on the weekends is something thats important to make
time for. The more time you spend together, the greater trust you will form. 
Sending your mentee little encourage texts through the week are also a nice thing
to do! Make sure you make yourself available to them, and if they are panicking 
about what class to take and need to call you, make sure to be there for them.

Q5: Who do you look to as a mentor? How have they had an impact on you? #LeadChat
I look to my LAS mentor, Megan as a really big mentor in my life. She is someone 
who has her priorities straight, is focused on school, but also still knows how to
have a good time, and she is really fun to be with. She is a women of God and has a really strong faith, and she give me great advice. SHe has helped me with so many things this year, its hard to name just a few.

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I am so lucky!

Along with all of the other perks of being a Leadership Advancement Scholar at CMU, you receive a sophomore mentor to help you begin your college journey.

I cannot begin to describe how thankful I am to have received Megan McGillis as a mentor. Jumping into a school of 22,000 can be a little nerve racking, but Megan made my transition nothing but smooth. From answering all of my college questions, sending me sweet notes and presents, to taking me out to lunch when I was having a bad day, she was hands down an awesome mentor. Throughout the semester, we became very close and she always had my back. She is reliable, trustworthy, smart, hilarious, inspiring, beautiful and so much more. I am so lucky we got paired together!

Megan and I share so many of the same qualities, I find it a little strange how similar we are. Not only do we have a lot of the same beliefs, views and passions, but we have similar majors and share the same weird sense of humor. Megan has encouraged me to get involved on campus and to explore different student organizations, for example, she helped me to get involved with greek life. Next semester Megan and I are going through training to become apprentices and bible study leaders, together. Megan is not only a mentor, she is a best friend. I am glad my Leadership Advancement Scholarship (LAS) gave me an opportunity to get to know such an amazing person!

When you receive a mentor in LAS, you also receive a family tree. Megan once had a mentor, who has a mentor, and so on. Not only do I have an incredible mentor, but my family tree is out of this world! My G mentor, Janelle McLaughlin, and my GG mentor, Molly Macgillivray, are two of the best young women. As with Megan, I share many similarities and life goals. I think that they are very inspiring people. They have given me great advice and I have loved getting to know them as well. I like to think of them as older sisters.

Megan, Janelle and Molly are most definitely some of my role models, and I am thankful to have them as “family” and “mentors”.

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“Surround yourself with people who push you,

who challenge you

who make you laugh

who make you better

who make you happy”


Mentor/Mentee Retreat

Location: Eagle Village in Hersey, Michigan

Purpose: To grow in your leadership skills and build a meaningful relationship with your mentor and 2013/2014  LAS cohort.

I was extremely excited to get a weekend away from school! It was still the beginning of the semester, and I was still feeling overwhelmed with adjustments. Along with that, I got to bond with my awesome mentor and new LAS classmates.

About 80 Leadership Advancement Scholars arrived at Eagle Village on a Saturday morning. We did not all know each other. Half of the people there were new freshmen, like me. After that weekend of getting to know each other over playing survival games, doing ropes courses, sitting around a camp fire, and other bonding activities, we left as more of a family, and less of just a “cohort”.

The Leadership Institute at CMU, is very big on Meaningful Relationships. When school gets tough, I am glad to know that I have my leadership families to lean on.

Megan and I bonded over developing our leadership abilities. We completed a challenging high ropes course together. Along the way, we had to come up with new ways to go along the course, in which we had to depend on each other. When you are forced to completely trust another person, you are most likely to grow your relationship.

I really enjoyed getting to know some of the people in LAS that I had never talked to previously. Lauren Lyon and her mentor Cassie, were apart of Megan and I ‘s small group for the weekend. At one point, we had to complete a survival course, by carrying a sled, and we could not touch the ground. This silly activity improved our critical thinking and communication skills, and helped us to form relationships as well.

Eagle Village was a great time, not only to get away, but to build friendships and learn new things

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